The Truth Will Set You Free
On the morning of 18th January 2013 I set my alarm for 2am. I rolled over and turned on my laptop to watch the confession of Lance Armstrong, I watched in a state of trance as he finally after all this time, admitted to using performance enhancing drugs and more worringly, bullying. I am a big fan of cycling, I watch as much as television coverage in the UK allows me to. I am not defending Armstrong but he made the mistake that many others made and the mistake that many more people will make. His mistake was using performance enhancing drugs but his crime has gone so much further. The lie he kept up for years and years, knowing that people knew the truth, sueing people who were as Oprah put it “just telling the truth” was outragous.
Now to the real content of the post. The title is accurate, the truth will set you free, as it has set Lance Armstrong free because now he is free to start a new chapter in his life. Your truth is something different but we all have one, we all have that one truth that if we just let it go and came clean, we would live a much healthier life. I am not even necessarily talking about a lie that has been told, it may just be a feeling or something we need to come to terms with. In terms of our minds, denying the truth from coming out is stressful, we need to open up in order to be free.
Lance Armstrong might walk down the street and get a few looks or even some abuse. But for you, if you come clean even to yourself about something, if you admit something to yourself rather than push it away you will feel better. If you are unsure what I mean, go and look into the mirror and just look into your eyes for 30 seconds or so. Then in your head, I want you to say something to yourself which you act as if true but you know is false and then I want you to say it aloud, still looking yourself directly in the eye. After I want you to embrace that feeling you get, then tell yourself the truth going through the same process. Look yourself in the eye and tell yourself the truth.
Just remember, if you have to come out with the truth to someone just remember a few things:
- For one they do not know the whole story and they will probably be judging you for your actions, just tell them the story, the narrative and how you felt not just the facts.
- Do not except them to believe everything you say if you have lied, sometimes there is no way you can make someone believe you are being genuine, so tell it how it is and let them believe what they want, your part is done.
- Be brave, you may be guilty of something but not everything has to have excessive blame attatched to it
- It will not just go away once you say sorry and come clean because if like Lance Armstrong you ruined careers or broke years of trust, some people cannot come back from that but that does not mean you shouldn’t tell them.
- Don’t live a lie.
I know you guys will take this seriously and just remember to go and do the excerise with your mirror, it is open excerise and you are not there to judge yourself, just show yourself that you know the truth and that you are ready to take the next step.